Harness Your Emotions: Manifestation & Healing Through Feelings
“Emotions are so intense when they're on either end of the spectrum and we think that safety comes from the middle, in the gray, but it's that intensity, the fire energy that harness to create, and motivates us to change”
This Is Soul Therapy, Episode 28
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In this episode of This is Soul Therapy, we explore both sides of the critical role that emotional embodiment plays in manifestation.
I share personal stories and dive deep into how feeling, processing, healing, and releasing emotions creates space for the expansion you desire. We’ll also talk about the powerful connection between aligning your nervous system and priming your subconscious mind for taking aligned action. This stops self-sabotage in its tracks and helps you create the space and energy needed to manifest what you truly want.
If you’ve ever wondered why manifestation feels stuck or inconsistent, emotional embodiment holds the key. Listen in to discover how embodying your emotions can unlock the life you’re craving.
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Jennifer: [00:00:00] Hey, everybody. Welcome back to the show. It's a lovely day. It's sunny. Can you see these rainbows? Like, I love it. I have crystals that hang, little prism crystals that hang in my window here. And when the sun hits the window just the right way, it feels like you're dancing in magic. And This is just a little reminder to get yourself some crystals, hang them in your window.
Right? Like rainbows are so magical. They tapped me into this memory of when I was a child and my friend had them in her window in her bedroom. And I thought they were so cool. But let's like, stop this tangent before we get going too far this week. We're talking all about feelings. I'm talking about emotions, feeling your feels like it is the key to being a human.
It is the key to like, Thriving as a human our emotions actually are for survival you know you say surviving and thriving or I want to thrive not just survive your emotions will help you do both right our emotions are built into us and wired into our system to alert us to things that are going on.
In our [00:01:00] surroundings or, you know, to keep us alive, basically, but we can take our emotional state and we can go beyond just using it for information to be like, do this. Don't do that. We can use that information to actually learn how to thrive and evolve as a human and heal some things on a soulful level
not just that, but it's really, really important in manifestation. And I'm going to share some stories with you this week about how I have manifested lots of things in my life. And most often it only comes after I like let myself get deep into the feelings of things. And I think it's important to talk about that because in.
Law of attraction, you know, people say Oh, you gotta be high vibe and you gotta be like in the vibration of the thing that you're trying to bring into your life. And I don't think that's totally true, because I think it's just oversimplifying it to say that Oh, when I get that new job, I'll feel powerful and confident.
And so I have to be powerful and confident. Because yes, you will feel like that when you get that job. [00:02:00] But you're human. You're going to go up and down the roller coaster. So when we'd say like, we have to be in this high vibrational state, or we have to be, you know, only feeling a certain way to manifest something.
I don't think it's necessarily true. And I think it just puts another barrier between us and what we're trying to change in our life. And so I want to share some stories this week. I want to talk about feelings. I want to talk about emotions. I want to talk about the idea of, you know, what you feel you make real.
That's the part of the manifestation and you feel it to heal it. Like there's, there's so much to be said about our emotions and understanding our emotional state.
And there's so much to be said for it now, but depending on how old you were, where you grew up, like I grew up, we didn't really learn about our feelings as much. Like we learned like happy, sad, don't be angry. Don't be mad, you know, be agreeable, be nice, be quiet. And we, we live now in a [00:03:00] space where like.
our understanding of the role of emotions and what it means to have certain feelings and process them. It's so, so different. It's so, so different. And so if you like me are raising children, it's almost like you're teaching them, but you're teaching yourself because we're playing catch up on all this stuff.
That is in the research and just in terms of like how we do things now, like breath work to move emotions up. Did that exist in the eighties? I don't know. I never heard about it until like a couple of years ago.
Okay, let's get a reading in. Let's see what we got. I am using the Modern Witch deck. Okay, for anyone who wants to know,
isn't this an appropriate card? The Ten of Swords, this is about painful endings when stuff is over and finished and it hurts. It's funny, I put my hand on my heart and I sort of just connected into energy and said, like, give me a card that will facilitate this conversation about feeling and [00:04:00] emotions.
And my ear is ringing. Thank you. Oh, thank you, spirit. Okay. Maybe they could just dial it down a bit so we could get through this episode. The Ten of Swords is like really painful and it hurts. And you just, it's one of those things like you, you get into a breakup and you lie down and you're like, I'm going to lie in my bed and listen to sad songs for weeks.
And I'm never coming out. And it's about the necessity of those hard moments to create space and to release things and to make room for other stuff. But it's about like, don't deny the pain that you're in and feel what you're feeling. Cause quite often this card comes up when like, you're not expecting something.
And so You know, as we go into this conversation, it's like, it is literally the perfect card. There's no such thing as a perfect card, but this is pretty close. We have to feel the hard feelings. We have to let ourself wallow a little bit with boundaries wallowing with like, you know, like we're going to cut it off at a [00:05:00] certain point because there is something about getting stuck in emotions.
And we'll talk about that this week. But this is a big part of the human existence feeling good feeling low and if we can process and understand feeling low we can almost harness the energy of it to move us forward and i'll i'll share some stories this week about when. I went through this every time I pull this card.
I'm like, I sort of have this like feeling because it reminds me of some stuff about 2 years ago where it was like pulling it all the time because literally it was like ending after ending after ending and things were so painful, painful and but it was necessary. It was necessary pain to create space for what was to come side note before we dive in further monthly.
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Okay. So yeah, we're talking about feelings and feeling our feelings so we can heal things, but mostly so we can move on. Okay. So we can move forward in our life
I know that you can't manifest shit if you are detached from how you're feeling. That means if you're in the lows of the lows and things are not jiving and things are not moving well, you need to actually connect with what's happening and feel the crap that you're going through in order to release it and move on.
But I also know that if you're trying to manifest something that is like above you or beyond you. And I don't mean like it's out of your reach. Like it's. Like you're not good enough for it yet but i mean like it's so different than what you are used to you're manifesting say even [00:07:00] money if you're manifesting a lot of money but all you've grown up with and all you're used to is like scarcity and lack and you know scrambling to make ends meet and you're used to that like frantic hustle.
That's what your body's attuned to. Okay, that's what your nervous system is attuned to, to be normal. So when you're manifesting this feeling of like being supported and being cared for and being safe and like, just sort of like, uh, like relaxing into that feeling of like, I have my needs met. That feeling, that emotional feeling can be so jarring and scary.
Okay. For your nervous system and your brain and your body. And so learning to harness feelings to release them, but learning to harness feelings to embody them safely and get comfortable with them. It's both ends are so, so important when we're talking about manifesting and the man I've made something this last week called the manifesting magic playbook.
And it's [00:08:00] come from. Conversations I've been having with clients, conversations I've been having with friends, conversations that we've been having here on the podcast, and just talking about the process of building a life that you want to live in. Like the word manifesting sometimes gets like a bit of a woo woo lens on it, where we think like, Like, do you know what I mean?
Like it gets so taken it's, it can be almost too out there. And I want you to understand that like manifesting is for everybody. Everybody manifests. I don't care who you are. Uh, if you're not manifesting, then you're just sort of on, you're flatlined and you're on autopilot because manifesting is really just like looking at your current circumstances and saying, how do I feel about this?
Do I feel fulfilled? You know, as it tick in the boxes and do I feel like I'm growing as a human? And when you realize that you're bumping up against that threshold where you're not growing, you set your sights on something else and you say like, Oh, I want to get a new job or I want to get a promotion or I'd like to learn this skill set.
It's because your soul is wanting to sort of like push. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. The edge or push the boundary [00:09:00] of like the bubble that you've created of your existence. You want to like expand your aura, expand your energy, expand like your energetic imprint is what I'm hearing. Okay. And let me go back. The manifesting magic playbook is Something that it's just literally, I'll be honest.
It came to me when I was in the shower, it was one of those moments where I woke up, I was in the shower and I could like hear in my head, like, you have to make this, you have to guide people through this process. You have to show people what needs to be done to change your life. Because like manifesting, like I said, we all do it.
Everybody does it. It doesn't matter if it's like. You're just saying, I'm going to run 10 K today. Or like, I'm going to get a new car. Like we're always wanting things and moving towards things, but quite often we're moving towards the wrong thing. And I say that with like my own experience, I'm very good at manifesting.
Very, very good at manifesting. I'm also very good at manifesting shit. I actually don't care about. And like stuff that I'm like, this will [00:10:00] make me happy when, and this, uh, playbook has come out of a process of me, like looking at my life and just sort of reflecting on. My spiritual journey and how I got into the energetics of manifesting and how I used it to like build a lot of things in my life, like a career and all the, you know, stuff I thought would like tick the boxes and make me feel great.
But then I got to this point where I was like, Oh, like I still feel unfulfilled. And I had to really look at myself, what beliefs I had, what feelings I was avoiding, what feelings I was chasing, but not embodying. And really Take all the like tendrils of my life that I had like thrown out there that I was trying to create and bring it back into this core that is really was really reflective of who I was and connected me with that like deep emotional fulfillment that I think we're all seeking and so I'll talk about the guide as we go through this [00:11:00] episode and also like just give you some.
Share some stories about my own experience in terms of feelings and working through feelings because I don't care who says like what I don't think you can change your life just by sitting at home and saying some affirmations like I am rich, I am wealthy, I am abundant, like you could say that to your blue in the face, but like you have to bridge the gap between wanting something, thinking it, feeling it, believing it, And then acting all these parts have to come into play.
And if they don't nothing changes and if lots of them are together, but like a few are missing, what happens is you start manifesting stuff in your life. That is like, like I said, not what you actually want and just sort of like digs you deeper into this hole. And so as we're talking today, if you're interested, you can go have a look at the book.
It's 50 pages. There's. Guided meditations, there's audio affirmation tracks, there's [00:12:00] journal prompts, there's printable templates, there's playlists, there's all sorts of stuff in there for you. And the whole purpose of it was to be a very systematic process that guides you, but also holds your hand through the process of looking at what's going on in your life, feeling what needs to be felt to be released, feeling what needs to be felt to be brought in, and then aligning all of that with your actions so that you move forward.
Because we all deserve that. Let's be honest, right? So you can get that at jenniferhulley. com slash manifesting magic. That's one word. Or you can just go to the show notes and you can go read all about it. And if you have any questions, you can just DM me. But yeah, like what we feel we make real what we feel we heal.
We know that. And we're very well, like we know it, but do we do it? Probably not. We're really good at numbing out And we're really good at putting a barrier between what's really going on [00:13:00] and our reality and what's deep within us, like so deep down. But let's start with what we feel we heal. Okay. Doesn't matter what you want.
Whatever you want, it represents a a future version of self, right? Whether you're saying, I want a new jacket, I want a new car, I want a new job, I'm gonna move whatever you're trying to manifest, it represents a future version of you, doesn't represent who you are right now. It represents somebody in the future.
Maybe it's like one step along the path, maybe it's two, maybe it's like 500 yards. We don't know. But what has to happen is this. Detachment from who you are now who you were in the past and where you want to go you need to detach from the baggage for lack of a better word that is behind you or currently on because in order to step into this new identity of this person who [00:14:00] has this job who's confident who has these friendships who has these relationship who makes this money who goes on vacation who just has a house.
Or like a day to day life that makes them feel joyful and ease and peace in order to be that person. We have to release some stuff that we've been hanging on to old identities, old feelings, old traumas. You cannot run a marathon if you're holding 10, 000 suitcases. Does it mean that we like get rid of our suitcases?
No. Sometimes we put wheels on them. It makes them easier to move. Sometimes we put them on a luggage trolley, make somebody like get somebody else to move them for you. Sometimes we put them on a shelf. We say, I'll come back to you later, but we can't be carrying all this stuff. And there is so much that we accumulate as we grow and we go through life.
There is a lot of talk about childhood trauma. And healing your inner child,
and that is important, excuse me, squeaky chair, that is important, healing your inner child, but there's also a lot to be said for like, healing the [00:15:00] version of you from like, last year. Or like last week or like literally 30 minutes ago. And we don't actually give ourself space to close the like the trauma cycle or the stress cycle, or I'm going to use that as an example, because like.
When I say like we need to feel things to heal things, I'm typically talking about like sadness, anger, you know, regret, grief, things like that, because we're pretty good at like feeling the good feelings. We're not so good at feeling the heavier feelings, but animals. Okay. So if you look at animals, And they have something that is like upsetting to them or scary.
They think they're going to die, whatever. They'll like literally lie down and shake, like, they'll just go, they'll shake or like dogs will shake off or whatever. They do something to close the loop so that their brain knows like it's over. It's done. You're safe. That happened. It's good. You can release it now.
Humans need to do that too. Okay. We need to close the loop of whatever we've [00:16:00] lived through or whatever feelings we've had, but we don't do it and we don't do it because we're so Busy we're busy and we're over scheduled and we have a lot of demands on us and we think this and this and this so we kind of like stuff our days full so we don't have time to do that I would say like we kind of do that so we don't have to do that and don't have to look at our feelings but also like a lot of us grew up in a you know in a time where we were told like chin up stop crying it's fine like we're not we weren't raised to In a space where like, yes, feel your feelings, feel it, heal it.
You know? And like I said, we're not going to sit and cry for like 72 years, but we're going to, we're going to do it within a container that is specifically for that feeling. Okay. There's a show, uh, called shrinking it's on apple TV. They're coming out with a season two. I'm very excited because I loved it, but in, and this is like not a spoiler alert.
So if you haven't watched it, it's fine. You can still watch it, but there's this concept. One of the [00:17:00] characters, the main character, he's lost his wife. You know that like immediately that he's a widower. And There's a process that he goes through called grieve hard, where he gives himself like 15 minutes to just grieve the shit out of it.
Puts on headphones, gets really emotional. He's like, let me like really like make a little cave for my feelings. And he just releases it like a tidal wave. And then the timer goes off and he's like, boop, okay, we're done. Now I got to get on with my day. And there's something to be said for this process.
And I have used this strategy myself in my own life. I lost my dad two years ago to suicide, and it was, you know, if you lose somebody in your life, it hurts, right? If you lose somebody in a way that is really unexpected or, you know, it hurts even more. And when you have a parent who has mental health issues, there's all this other pain that's like tangled up in it.
And my therapist says it's called complex grief, right? It's not just grief. It's [00:18:00] like grief with a gold star. But I remember watching this show as I was like going through it and I was like, I need to give myself these like little grief windows because I wasn't having a lot of time to grieve things.
I mean, I would, but when it would like bottle up to a point where I was like, Oh, I'm going to explode. And a lot of it is from like, I'm a single mom. I had a son who he's, he was three at the time he was, we were, Busy. And I was the, uh, what are they called? The executor on the estate. And it was like, when you're in these positions of like responsibility in so many different ways.
You saying like, I'm going to sit down and grieve this and not just grieve like the death, but grieve things from your childhood, grieve like, because it's just like this train pulls up to the station, right? When you go through a trauma like that, where it's like, there's the event, but then there's all the cars that are connected to it.
And it's like, We're going to look at this. We're going to look at this, you know, and I started using this process of [00:19:00] like, I'm going to do the grief heart and I'd find like sad music. I was like, I'm on this really sad song. I had like a playlist. Like literally I had I had a playlist for, for grieving, just stuff that just made you feel so sad.
Cause I was like, let's bring it up. Let's bring it up. And I would do it like on a scheduled thing every day at a certain time I'd sit down and be like, this is my grief cocoon. Here we go. And you feel so much better. Yeah. You feel so much better. And when it would be time to stop, I was like, you could actually stop.
And I remember like when I first started, you think like, Oh, once I let this out of the bottle, I'm never going to be able to get it back in. Right. We think like, especially if we don't get into the, the habit of feeling things that are very intense, they become this like monster in the closet where you're like, if I let it out, I don't know what's going to happen.
Right. But if you let it out, In increments and with containment and with support, it just, it's like when you shake a bottle of pop and instead of opening it, you go like, Like you let a little bit of [00:20:00] the steam out to, to the point where eventually you can then open the bottle and then you're like, okay, now I can pour this out.
And then after I've poured it out, we have an empty bottle. It's like, what do I want to put in this bottle? So there's this process of like healing and deep feeling that has to happen before you can move into this new version of who you are. And I use that example of like, grieving hard because it worked.
It was funny. I remember watching it's, it's funny the way they do it in the show. Cause the show's like a comedy, but there's so much to actually like learn and take from the show. I recommend it to like everybody go, go watch it. But it doesn't have to be that way. Like you don't have to. Sit and cry your eyes out.
But like, you can do things like journaling. My friend and I were talking about like how we've been doing rage journaling recently, where you just sit down and you're like, all right, universe, fuck this shit. And they're like, like put all your, like your grievances out because anger is a thing. And when we're mad, it's usually because like a boundary has been crossed or our [00:21:00] needs aren't getting met.
Like a violation of some sort has happened. And the anger is there to be like, look at this. Yeah. Like, look at this, fix this, like, stop, you know, like, stop taking this as status quo. But like, how often do you sit down and be like, I'm gonna just let myself be angry with all the angry things? No, we don't, because we tell ourselves, I gotta be high vibe.
I have to be like, in alignment with the thing that I'm manifesting. Yes, you do. But also you need to be you and you need to still embody that version of you in the future who will have that thing and still have days that are difficult and still have challenging emotions right it's not an either or it's a yes and doing it together and I have manifested so many things in the depths of despair like to talk about the 10 of swords and this time like if someone said to you like when you're literally in the like hollows of like despair being like, Oh my God, Oh my everything's terrible and dealing with trauma and grief and [00:22:00] sadness and depression and like same shit every like same shit different day.
Do you think that's when you can manifest something that you really, really want and need and desire? You would think not, but you can. And like I said, there's so many times that I've manifested stuff and it's come on, you know, The other side of me, letting out some emotions, whether it's letting out like deep grief or letting out rage, rage fits are really interesting because I believe that anger is really connected to your solar plexus.
Right? And so if we think anger is a really extreme iteration or extreme expression of solar plexus energy, want to dial it in a bit. We don't want it to be like that crazy, but it activates it. Sometimes when something's been turned off for so long and we turn it on, it's like, and then you bring it back down.
Right. So in my own experience, I think for me experiencing like the fits of rage where I was like cursing the universe and I was like, [00:23:00] are you fucking getting me no more? I want this and this and this. And I want the, it was like, It wasn't so much rage, it was coming out as rage, but it was really a self expression of solar plexus energy, personal power, deservingness, speaking up, having boundaries and expectations of like what sort of care and, you know, experiences you deserve as a human.
And like one of the things I manifested was what did I manifest? There was like three things in one year. I manifested my dog overnight. And I was like in the depths of grief. I had lost my other dog. He had died. Like literally 2022 was the year that like everybody and everything died and everything exploded.
Like people, deaths, animal deaths. My car exploded twice. Like it was just, it was such a year. It was like tower times a million. But I also manifested really big things like almost overnight. I manifested a car in the middle of a car shortage. I manifested a [00:24:00] dog. Overnight which i didn't think after having this whole like shit fest with this other dog i manifested a job overnight and then like manifested a new variation of that job within that job there were so many things and for me like i said when you when you activate that yes you release the grief and you release the sadness and you say like.
It's this about connecting with like this is how shitty I feel I actually feel this crappy I feel this low I feel this unfulfilled now what am I going to do about it so that's the one side of like what you feel you heal but you create that self awareness to now be like okay so now what because as long as we're not feeling things.
We can deny what's actually going on for ourself.
We can deny how unfulfilled we feel because we can also think like, I should be grateful. Yes, you should be grateful, but also it's it's okay to say that things aren't going the way that you want them to [00:25:00] go, and that you're not happy with the way things have been, and you can ask for more and deserve more, and you can do that while being mad and sad, and I think for me, like when I manifested like the dog and I was like, just bawling my eyes out cause my dog had died. And I was really, it was really hard. Like he was, my dog came to me when I came home from England. I was living in England for many years. I was in a really dysfunctional relationship, like super dysfunctional.
And when I left and came home, I was this like shell of myself. And I, I remember I adopted this little dog and he he was with me for, So much of my life and then having my son and that came to a point where he laughed and he, when he laughed, like my, my grandma had died, other stuff was going on. My dad had not died yet.
Like that was coming. But the second dog came after my dad died. Like it was like, like I said, it was a really, really weird year for me. But I tried getting a new dog. Like I was like, my dog died and I was like, I'm [00:26:00] getting a new one right away. And I didn't think about what I wanted. I wasn't really intentional about what I wanted to feel.
I didn't, wasn't intentional or clear on what that future version of me and my family felt like with a dog. I was just like, I need a dog. I need a dog. And I did manifest a dog. It didn't go well. That's a story for another day. Unfortunately, she was just like not a good match for a family with kids. And we had to, I had to find a new home for her after a couple of weeks.
And I did, I found her a nice, like retired couple that had had a dog like that before, and it was quiet and people who were home all the time. And it's like, she was going to be good, but I got to this like low, like, because then my dad died. Right. So like I had tried having this second dog and then my dad had died.
And I was like in like the third wave of grief. And I had this experience with a friend's dog and it like connected me with this. Like I do really want a dog. Cause I'd sort of put it off and said like, I don't need a dog. It's fine. It will make my life difficult, but I was with, at a friend's house and connected with [00:27:00] their dog and it, it, It connected me to sadness that I was like, that I didn't know that I felt where I was like, I'm so missing this.
And this is what I'm missing. Like, this is like the type of dog that I need. I need this and that. And I went home and I was just bawling my eyes out. I was so sad. And I wrote this list really specific of like every single thing that I needed. And demanded in this dog, I was like, it has to be house trained.
It has to be good with kids. It has to be like this. I want it to come from here. I got so specific. And I was like, it can't be a puppy. It needs to be between one and two because I knew I couldn't take a puppy on. Like that was the other thing that other dog was still in the puppy phase is like six months old, not, not a good match for my home and what was going on.
And so I asked for like every single thing, crying my eyes out of like what type of breed, how old it was What type of shots? Like it needed to have all its vaccines. It needed to already have been like spayed or neutered. It [00:28:00] needed to be here. I only wanted to spend this much. And I even said like, it can be this breed or this breed.
Like I got so specific. I said, it's gotta be an adoption. It's gotta be, I don't want it to be more than two years old. It has to be good with kids. Really hard. I don't know if anyone's done like animal rescues or shelter dogs. It's very hard to find one that says like good with kids. Not because they're, they're bad, vicious dogs, but because they haven't tested them in a home with children, so they don't know.
So they just typically, they typically say no. If you have a kid and I asked for everything, I was like, this is never going to happen. I was like, this is like the biggest wishlist in the world. But I left it, I put it to the universe and I was mad and I was like, this is what I deserve. This is the type of dog that we need.
And like, I was like, you fucking figure it out. I was literally so mad. I wrote it down. I left it and I woke up the next morning and I looked on this like classifieds listing thing that website, and there was a dog there. And it had every single thing that I had written on my list. Every single thing down to [00:29:00] the fact that I said it can either be a Maltese or a Shih Tzu and it was a Maltese Shih Tzu mix.
And it was the same age. It said good with kids. It had like, and I like had just gone up and I like texted the woman and I was like, Can I come see him like tomorrow and she was like, yep, and she put him on hold and I went and saw him and we brought him home and his name is Walter and he's the best little dog ever, but it was this example of like, instead of asking for what I thought I could get or what I thought was good enough.
I like shot for the moon and I was like, this is how I want to feel. I want to feel like. I don't want to feel stressed. I want to feel at ease. I want to feel connected. I want to feel calm and peaceful. I want to, you know, and I tapped into these feelings and then figured out like what the dog needed to look like.
And put it all together and didn't say like, Oh, just get, I just want a dog that's hypoallergenic or whatnot. I was like, this is exactly what I require in my life because I need to feel like this and enough with this. Like I kind of got [00:30:00] through that, like, and like, Spewed out these emotions, but connected with the emotions that I wanted to feel in the future and there it goes, right?
It's right there and none of this like, oh, it takes time for your manifestations to catch up with you in the 3d I think you can manifest miracles. I think you can manifest magic overnight But I think the key is like I said getting really clear on what it is that you want Not settling getting really clear on what you need to what feelings you want to embody.
And so this is all in that manifesting magic playbook. It's like I said, there's these processes that I guide you through that connect you with like, Past versions of self, current self, future self. You look at the, the emotional through lines. You look at where bridges need to be built. You see where there's gaps.
And then you support yourself as you work through it, because I believe you can manifest anything. If you can manifest a dog overnight, I manifested a car overnight with the same process. That's a story for another day. But in the middle of like a car shortage in the [00:31:00] pandemic, got really pissed at the universe.
And I was like, everybody, I was like, here comes the rage, which for me. I'm now learning my rage is really connected. Like I said to solar plexus energy energy and solar plexus personal power. And I don't know if you're like me, you think, you know, we tend to think that safety comes in like the, if we think of the spectrum of emotions, like really, really high, happy is really, really low lows.
We seem to think that like safety comes from the middle from the gray. And that's just not true. And it's also, that's not where the power lies. Like there is. Emotions are so intense when they're on either end of the spectrum, right? But it's that intensity. That's that fire energy that you can then take to create and to motivate you for change.
And so if you're getting to those spaces where you're letting yourself feel and release, whatever needs to be felt and released, just know that like, It's like I said, like [00:32:00] taking that lid off the pop bottle, emptying it. So then you have space that you can fill and
We've talked about so much here. Like that is just half of the equation is you feel it to heal it, to release it, to make space for it, to connect with what you need to connect with. But there's this other side of manifesting where, you know, the, the state, this, the saying is what you feel. You make real and we talked about this a little bit at the beginning where i said you know you have to connect with what it's not the thing that you're chasing it's not the car or the job or the house it's the emotional state that you're wanting to connect with we want more money because we want to feel free and we want to feel safe and secure and relaxed you know or we we chase jobs because we want to feel powerful and confident it's always the feeling that we're looking for not just the thing right because you can, The thing can shift and change like it's not so dependent that it has to be like [00:33:00] this, you know, there's different ways that you can meet your different emotions, but I just anything that you're trying to bring into your life.
Let's say this, whatever you're trying to bring into your life. Uh, look at it and. Ask yourself what you're trying to actually connect with feeling wise. And again, let's plug the manifesting magic playbook. I put you through that process in the playbook where I help you realize like what it actually is that you're chasing.
And then you have to get your body on board. You have to get your nervous system on board, right? We, I mentioned it briefly at the beginning where, and just said it now, like we, we think I keep hitting the microphone. This thing is like right in my face, but we need it. We think that like the gray zone is the safe zone.
Right. And so our, our body wants to keep us in whatever is that safe zone. And for us, everybody's safe zone looks different. Like if you're used to feeling a certain way, that's your safe zone, because that is what is familiar to you. And so anything that you're trying to manifest or wherever you're trying to like, [00:34:00] Move into a new space in your life.
It requires you to move into something that is unknown emotion wise.
So like if you want a new job and you're like manifesting a promotion because you want to feel confident, you probably don't feel confident where you are right now. We haven't had a lot of experiences with that. So that chasing of confidence is enough for your brain to be like, no, no, no, no. Like that's weird.
What is that? We don't know what that feels like. Let's shut it down. You sure you want to do that? Let's sabotage the shit out of it. Right. And that's why sometimes we work so hard on something and it never comes because our body, our brain, our mind, our soul, everything subconscious is going haywire, trying to prevent it from coming in because that emotional state or that feeling, Might have an intensity that we're not used to is so unfamiliar that we don't know how to do it.
We don't know how to [00:35:00] gracefully and easily and like just systematically almost step into that space and so when I say like what you feel you make real if you can train your body to get comfortable with. Feeling supported, feeling confident, feeling loved, feeling whatever, when those opportunities come into your life.
And I mean, even like the smallest little breadcrumbs that will take you there. When those things come into your life, your brain isn't going to stop you. It's not gonna be like, Oh, hell hold up. Wait, is this safe? It's gonna be like, yeah, this is cool. Yeah, this is fine. And so yes, making space emotionally, clearing out the stuff is like a big part of manifesting, but the other side is.
Training your body and stretching your brain and stretching your nervous system to get comfortable with what you're going to call in. Nobody actually jumps off a cliff because jumping off a cliff is scary. You know what I mean? Like we don't want change like overnight because if you did, your nervous system would not be [00:36:00] able to handle it.
You know, a lot of times like people win the lottery and then their life goes to shit because they're not equipped to handle that big of a change. And it's the same. With smaller things. It's the same with job changes or relationships or whatever it is that you're trying to bring in. If it's so different than what is new, normal and day to day for you.
It looks so new and scary. And so you know, your brain thinks it's like you're jumping off a cliff. So we want to be like, we're not actually jumping off a cliff. Look, there's a little rope ladder and we're just going to like climb down and it's going to be fine. You know, And so what I like to do is do a lot of visualization, but paired with emotional embodiment, where you visualize that thing that you want to bring into your life and you you feel it and you create narratives and you create storylines, you use your imagination and your power of creative thinking and daydreaming to trick your brain.
It's just called like mental rehearsal to trick your brain. And it's like thinking the thing that you [00:37:00] want is already done. And like athletes do this. There's a lot of studies that show Olympic athletes or professional athletes, how their performance and their actions are different. And they have different results when they mentally visually rehearse whatever it is that they're going to do.
And so it's not just like woo woo stuff. It's not just like, sit there and visualize and it'll happen. It's actual brain science about visualizing your brain. So your brain makes the neural pathways where it's like, Oh, I do this and this and this, and that's what happens. But training your body. And your emotional system to be like, and I feel like this, and this is safe and this is okay.
And so that's why that's the other part of what's in the manifesting magic playbook is because you have to hold your own hand and walk yourself through this and make a safe and secure decision. Container and a safe path for you to be in the space where you receive what it is that you want. And so there's a whole section.
There's, I think, four or five sections. I can't remember how many I divided it up to, [00:38:00] but there's a whole section in there about emotional embodiment to create. Pathways of safety to your future version of self. And it's a process that I go through. It's a process that I put my one to one clients through.
And I believe fully, like so firmly that it's the other piece that's missing in manifestation. And it's like, yes, we set goals. Yes, we do affirmations, but we need to release and make space to activate certain personal power to release baggage. And then we need to connect with. Safely and get used to something else so that it becomes our new normal.
And so, like I said, go get the playbook. If you're interested and you want to walk through this with me, I feel like you can listen to my voice. There's a little audio tracks in there. And feel like I'm holding your hand and walking you through this because I am, you know, this is a way that I can work with you and support you.
And. I'd love to know what you're manifesting as well. Like DM me, tell me what you're trying to bring in, in [00:39:00] your life. I've talked with a lot of people in the last couple of weeks about manifesting shared some successes with people, some really massive wins, uh, after having conversations about like getting into alignment and making sure we're asking for the things that we really want and making sure we're doing the emotional clearing and the emotional containment and the emotional embodiment that's necessary.
And I would just love to know what it is that you're, you're bringing into your life.
So, you know, as you go through the next week, make space for your feels, make space to feel your feelings, whether you want to start journaling, maybe do rage journaling. Maybe you want to do like grieve hard or just find a way to make space in your day. To safely feel and just witness your feelings. You don't even have to make them mean anything.
The first step, like I said, it's just like letting them out and then seeing what comes out after and find, find the process that works for you. Right? So make space to release what needs to be [00:40:00] released. And then also make space in your day to train your brain, to feel the things that you want to feel.
It's kind of like a double edged sword, two ended stick. I don't know. You know what I mean? Where it's like dipped. I'm seeing like those, Kayak paddles. You need to like do the one thing and the other thing and the one thing and the other thing and then your boat starts to go forward and so we don't want to be going just one circle where we're just like healing, healing, healing, because your boat will go in a circle.
And if we're like, let's just feel the good, feel the good, you're going to go in a circle. You literally need to be like heal and release. Feel and embody, heal and release, you know, embody and align. It's like, and when you do that, you're just creating a state and a sense of balance on a really deep level.
Like I mean, nervous system, I mean, subconscious brain. I mean, soulful level, you're creating that state of balance and equilibrium that you need to like, keep your boat going straight and to chart a course, but you're also supporting yourself to take. More aligned action because you're not like all [00:41:00] over the place, right?
Like the boat is slow and steady and moving forward. And it's going to be easier for you to do the things that you need to do to change your life, whether it's on like a micro variation or like a macro variation. So take time this week. Try those things out. Like I said, the manifesting magic playbook is there for you.
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